Sensitive Soul

Doing depression is being frustrated often. I can remember times of being so frustrated. At one time, I wanted to do remote work. But I did not think I had any skills to do it. I had little office experience even though I still did have my own company that I managed. I got so discouraged that I did not even try to do any remote work. I felt that I would be rejected. Who would hire me? I thought no one. And a big part of that was that I had low self-esteem. It was so low that I did not think I had anything to offer. This is the result of depression. https://lylcoach.lchlegacy.com/

One of the things that people who struggle with depression often do is to stop doing personal care and hygiene. They don’t bathe, brush their hair, or brush their teeth. This happens because they stop caring. They don’t care how they look, how they smell, or their general health. They don’t care about their clothes. Are they clean or dirty or even torn? It does not matter. They also change their eating habits. They eat more. They eat less. They eat a lot of sweets. They also stop a lot of activity. They don’t exercise.

This all happens when they just don’t care about them. They feel unworthy. They feel less than other people. They feel broken. They feel defeated in life. They feel all alone. Once someone gets to this stage, they need help more than ever.

Life should be experienced as happy, healthy, joyful, fearless, loving and alive. If not, you need to get to this point or sense of being. Help is here: https://lylcoach.lchlegacy.com/

I know what it is to get overly frustrated. I know what it is to go out of your mind over something simple. When I struggled with depression, if I lost a sock after doing laundry, I would go crazy searching for it. I could not rest until I found it. That is really silly. A lost sock will eventually show up. It is not worth getting all nuts over it. It is not worth raising your blood pressure or risk a heart attack. Have you ever become silly in looking for something like a missing sock? Would you like to change that habit? You can. Guidance is found here: https://lylcoach.lchlegacy.com/

Have you ever been upset by a FB meme? Someone has posted a meme and it makes life seem so easy. Just _____ and life will be great.
These sort of memes bug me so much. First of all, it isn’t normally so easy to do what they say to do. It is suggested that everyone who sees it will automatically know how to do what it says. They don’t give instructions on how to do it. And for people who struggle with depression, it will often make them feel worse. Why? Because you want to be able to change, but you don’t know how to and you feel less than other people. You think other people can do this and I can’t. If you want to change and need guidance you can find it here: https://lylcoach.lchlegacy.com/

So you are having what you may call a depressive episode. You are not in a good way mentally. The people in your life try to cheer you up. If you are anything like me when I was struggling with depression, my thought is “please don’t”. Then I fake a smile and say something nice to show my appreciation. I appreciated the effort, but it was not helpful. Am I right?
The problem is that they don’t get it, and think you just feel a little bummed out or something.They know what will help them so they try to help you the way that would be helpful to them. They think doing something fun will help. Maybe some exercise will help. How about a nice massage? Right? All of this makes you feel as if you just don’t fit in. You feel different. You long to feel this way. You really wish that their ideas will make you feel better.
You can feel this way. It takes a little effort, but you can fit in. I did depression for nearly 40 years. I have an understanding of it. I understand me. I understand you. Help can be found here:
https://lylcoach.lchlegacy.com/

Is it hard to open up to people because they do not understand your depression? There is a lot of confusion about what it is and what it is not. I share things really easily. I don’t know why it is really easy for me to share. I don’t have that need to feel safe. I guess I am comfortable with who I am.
BUT
I did say the wrong thing once. And my best friend said that I was being influenced by the devil. I am not. Depression or anxiety or anything similar has nothing to do with being possessed. Ever since I have been very guarded with what I share with her.
Maybe you all feel that way. Do you feel guarded because you feel you will be thought of in a negative light? That is a legitimate fear.

But it is all based on a general misunderstanding about what depression is and is not. It is not mental illness. It can be controlled.
I helped me. I can help you. Help is here: https://lylcoach.lchlegacy.com/

When it comes to depression, people shut down. They do because they don’t want to talk to someone who doesn’t understand. People who do not understand try to help, but they more often than not say the wrong or not helpful thing. They see life from their perspective and say what would help them. It takes having struggled with depression and conquering it to understand what to say and what not to say. This is why I believe that most counselors or therapists can’t help. They have not been through it. It takes more than empathy. I did depression for nearly 40 years. I have risen above it. Help is available here: https://lylcoach.lchlegacy.com/

Frustration is big when you struggle with depression. Everyone gets frustrated. But depression makes it worse. Computers can make anyone crazy. We can have a love-hate relationship with them. But to go into a rant and scream and yell at one when one is not doing what you would like is not what you want to be doing. It should not be wasting your energy. But when you get angry like that with a computer, you are really expressing your frustration with something else in your life. Some other aspect of your life is not going as you would like. You may or may not know what that is. But, that is why you yell at your computer. When you understand you better, you will not scream at a computer. You will recognize what is making you crazy in life and you will have a positive reaction and take care of it. Sounds good, right? https://lylcoach.lchlegacy.com/

One of the ways of doing depression is to get overly frustrated. I used to have such a short temper and rant over the dumbest things. I can remember trying to get the shell off a hard cooked egg. The shell just would not come off. I went into a rage. Could I have controlled it? Yes. I didn’t want to control it. I wanted to be out of control. Then once I got it all out I was fine. I needed to release the energy. Have you ever felt this way?
https://lylcoach.lchlegacy.com/

There is confusion about depression. There is a thought that if you have a good life you won’t have depression. I have had people say to me I have a good career, good family, friends, but I am still depressed. But think about it. there are plenty of people with fame and fortune who struggle with depression. There are people who are homeless who do not struggle with depression.
What does that tell you? It should tell you that it is not the life you have that determines whether or not you use depression. It is that you choose to use depression. Hear me out. You don’t want to struggle with depression, but your subconscious created the use of depression to help you through life stress. Once you get used to it you are comfortable in the use of depression. It becomes a hard habit to break. But it is not impossible. I did after nearly 40 years, and I don’t want to go back. How I did it is a course I developed. It is called Come Into Your Power. This and other options are here:
https://lylcoach.lchlegacy.com/