{"id":926,"date":"2018-07-16T17:38:35","date_gmt":"2018-07-16T17:38:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ctacoaches.com\/lisay\/?p=926"},"modified":"2018-07-16T17:38:35","modified_gmt":"2018-07-16T17:38:35","slug":"doing-depression","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ctacoaches.com\/lisay\/2018\/07\/16\/doing-depression\/","title":{"rendered":"Doing Depression"},"content":{"rendered":"

I want people to understand depression. Depression is something people DO<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

There are four survival needs.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Everything we do, every issue, every problem comes down to these four needs. The one I want to talk about is certainty\/comfort<\/strong>. For, it is the need for certainty\/comfort that is being met by the action of depression<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

People who have some aspect in their life that is out of control they use depression to give them certainty\/comfort in their life. It sounds odd. But there is a level of comfort in depression.<\/p>\n

Depression is filling a need. Granted, it is not meeting the need on a high level, but it is meeting the need. It may be the only vehicle that some people have to meet that need. It has become a habit.<\/p>\n

Why don’t they get help?<\/strong><\/p>\n

They don’t because for one thing<\/strong>, it is working for them. When it no longer works for them, they will be ready for change.\u00a0 For another<\/strong>, certainty is very important to them. Changing, meeting that need on a higher level, is uncertainty. They don’t know what to expect.<\/p>\n

They stay in the habit<\/strong> of depression because it is a comfort zone. All habits are made by us. We can break them anytime, but we need a new habit. You can’t just end a habit without a replacement.<\/p>\n

What can be done?<\/strong><\/p>\n

There are 5 steps:<\/p>\n

Diagnosis.<\/strong> Understanding what the person wants. What is the need?<\/p>\n

Leverage.<\/strong> Making the link between the pain of not changing and the pleasure of changing.<\/p>\n

Empowering Alternative.<\/strong> How can you meet the need with an empowering, fulfilling action.<\/p>\n

Conditioning.\u00a0<\/strong>This is simply practice. This is getting in the habit of the new action.<\/p>\n

Peer Group.\u00a0<\/strong>Having a circle of people in your life who understand or who are supportive.<\/p>\n

I hope this brings understanding.<\/p>\n

Cheers!<\/p>\n

Coach www.facebook.com\/lisaylifecoach<\/p>\n

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I want people to understand depression. Depression is something people DO. There are four survival needs.\u00a0 Everything we do, every issue, every problem comes down to these four needs. The one I want to talk about is certainty\/comfort. For, it is the need for certainty\/comfort that is being met by the action of depression. People … Continue reading Doing Depression<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":655,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[78],"class_list":["post-926","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-depression"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ctacoaches.com\/lisay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/926","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ctacoaches.com\/lisay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ctacoaches.com\/lisay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ctacoaches.com\/lisay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/655"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ctacoaches.com\/lisay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=926"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.ctacoaches.com\/lisay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/926\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":927,"href":"https:\/\/www.ctacoaches.com\/lisay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/926\/revisions\/927"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ctacoaches.com\/lisay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=926"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ctacoaches.com\/lisay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=926"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ctacoaches.com\/lisay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=926"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}