Uncertainty what an interesting word. It’s something that I don’t like. I like to be in control. I like to know what’s going on and what I need to do to make the result that I’d like to happen. This isn’t life though and I’m learning the more that I try to let go. The happier my fibro body is.
When experiencing any type of stressor in life there comes with it a certain amount of stress. If I try to worry about all the different aspects that I can’t control, and boy does my anxious brain try. Then my stress level goes up and as a result my pain increases.
Mountain Analogy
Think of it this way. I’m climbing a mountain. I have a good sense of the direction I need to go and know how many miles the hike is. Yet, if I begin to worry about how much water I have, will I have enough? What type of food I need to make sure my body is getting during the duration of the hike? Is there harder terrain, than I trained for? It can go on and on…Then I’m using up needless energy that I need to stay focused on the climb.
It’s the same in a fibro body. If I start to worry about what other people will think of me when I’m talking to them? Am I being a good parent? Why aren’t my boys doing what I ask? If I attach to every unmet outcome. Well, then I’m using needless energy and my fibromyalgia symptoms begin to flare up.
How to lessen unneeded stress?
There’s a technique called The Triad Stress method that’s referred to in the book, “The Fibromyalgia Solution”, by David Dryland MD with Lorie List. Basically, you start to notice different triggers like envy, judgment, fear of acceptance or rejection, etc. and you ask yourself is this really worth a fibromyalgia flare? The third part is to do the opposite of what your brain is trying to do in an uncertain situation.
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